Signs of Insecurity

Do others appear more self-confident than you? Do you feel you could be insecure? Do you feel you could be more self-confident? What are some signs related to insecurity?

In particular, some people appear to have all they need to have power to give them the sense that they could accomplish anything. Some people feel they will never be able to accomplish their goals. What are some signs or causes of insecurity?

Everyone has some form of insecurity. It’s almost impossible to be 100% free of doubt. Confidence is usually a gradual process. It often comes with age and wisdom (although some people never find it).Insecurity can be highly destructive.


Signs of Insecurity:

A person becomes overly selfish

A person becomes overly accommodating. Once again, this form of insecurity. An overly accommodating person attempts to gain the approval of other people by bending over backwards for them.

Defensiveness

Insecure people tend to be very sensitive to critique and respond with defensiveness.

Struggle with Silence

Excessive Joking/Sarcasm

Self-Promoting

Bullying

Overly Competitive Competitiveness is part of a healthy emotional makeup, but over-competitiveness is a sign of a problem. Someone who can’t take losing by making a big emotional display lacks confidence.

Insecurity in Relationships. Insecurity tends to be amplified in relationships. In this situation, there is a constant struggle for control and energy.


Ways to Work on your Self-Confidence:

Focus on finding positives for the day.. everyday has at least one positive (even if it is you brushed your teeth)
Identify 3 positive affirmations, write them down and repeat them to yourself out loud looking in a mirror
Journal each day about two positive things that day and then identify one positive thing you can focus on tomorrow
Surround yourself with positive people who lift you up
When you find yourself engaging in negative self talk, re frame it to positive self talk.
Do not look at failure as failure.. look at it as learning opportunity and an opportunity to do it different next time
Be ok with being "ok" at some things and excellent a few things
Write down all the things you you are proud of and thankful and put that list somewhere you can see daily!
You are not perfect you are human and you just have to be the best version of you for that day!


If someone you know or if you are experiencing difficulty let them know they are not alone and you are willing to assist them with finding the help they need. Sometimes just knowing you’re not alone is powerful in helping others seek the help they need. Psychological Health Roanoke has qualified and experienced clinicians available to help you and your family.